Attachment

In the last blog entry I've posted, I told you about a specific type of attachment: the secure base.
But the question is do you even have an idea about the attachment in general? No?? Probably you all have somehow an idea about that, but I still want to examine it a little for you.

According to a source I found the definition of Attachment is: "an emotional bound to another person." Actually I think that this is clear to all of us ;) Furthermore talking about the attachment theory means to analyze "lasting psychological connectedness between human beings".
John Bowlby and Mary Ainsworth are the first theorists coming to mind, when talking about attachment theories.
Talking about Attachment these types of characteristics are meant.

Safe Haven: he child wants its mother whenever it gets afraid or feels threathened

Secure Base: the interaction is very important, so the mother needs to provide all emotional and necessary needs, to build a close relationship to the child.

Proximity Maintenance:the child starts to explore the world, but whenever it gets afraid it knows that its mother will be there, so whenever it is afraid it turns back to mother.

Seperation Distress: whenever the mother leaves, the child gets distressed and doesn't feel well

There are 3 different types of attachment, which you also should know.
These are:
1)Secure Base
2) Ambivalant
3) Avoidant

1)Secure Base
The secure base is the type of attachment I talked about in the last blog. It is the best one, which also affects the future life of the child in the most positive way.

2) Ambivalant
The case of ambivalant happens, when the child gets afraid, when the mother leaves, but even when the mother comes back, the child still doesn't feel in comfort. The reason, why this type of reaction might occur is that probably the mother is not always there whenever the child needs her. So she couldn't build a very stable and close relationship to the child and the child doesn't know, whether it can trust her or not.

3) Avoidant
Children who shows these characteristics, do usually avoid their mother or closest caregiver. They do not cry when she leaves or when she comes back, in other ways they ignore her. But important to mention is that these children are still distressed, when the mother leaves, but the case is that they try to look strong (this happens unconciously!). The mother of such kind of child is probably never there, when the child needs her, so the child tries to get on without her.

Something else that you should know is, that object permanence is very important in case of attachment! You probably realized that children, who finally know that an object exists even when they are not present at the moment, start to build such a attachment to their caregiver, because in times before that they do usually cry so their basic needs get satisfied by someone.

Attachment: Secure Base

Hi over there!!
I know I didn't write since a long time, but now I think it's time again to post something for you :)
Do you have children? Probably most of you have, even when not you must have at least one in your surrounding. Okay what I want to ask you is that whether you have ever realized the relationship and interaction of the child to its mother or any nearest caregiver. Usually infants tend to cry whenever the mother is leaving and it has to stay with a stranger, and the baby doesn't stop until the mother is coming back. Luckily the baby stops when the mother comes back. Actually we all know that this is really annoying and we tend to take a deep breath when it stops crying. But we all have to know, that this reaction is the one which shows the best attachment of a child to its caregiver. This type of attachment is called: Secure Base. The child has a very close relation to its caregiver. Probably because the mother has a close interaction to its child and provides all its needs. Furthermore the child knows that it can trust its mother and that she'll be there, whenever it needs her. Let me show you an example about this type of attachment.